Recently, we had a mother and her child come into the Food Bank, and this child, happy and boisterous, was asking his mother where he was. “Mommy, is this a school, are we at school?”
“No” his mother replied. I suspect that she was hoping that this was the end of the discussion.
The child, however persisted, “Mommy, where are we?”
She finally responded, “We are at the Food Bank.”
“Mommy, what’s a Food Bank?”
When I heard that question, my heart stopped for a moment. When my child asks me what a Food Bank is, my answer is, “It’s Mommy’s work, we help people.” For this mother, the answer was very different. She had to explain to her child that it was a place where she got food.
“Like the grocery store, Mommy?”
“Well, sort of” was her answer. It was at this point that they were out of my range of hearing. I wasn’t sure what I would have said next in her position. Perhaps she directed his attention to something else; perhaps food banks aren’t that interesting to young children. As mothers, we try hard to shield our children from the difficult things in life; we don’t want them to know how much we struggle as adults in the world. My heart went out to this woman, as she did what she had to do to feed her children, while having to explain it to her inquisitive child.
Sometimes when I’m talking to people about the Food Bank, we discuss who the people are who use our service. I’ll often ask groups (especially children’s groups) if they think they’ll ever have to use a Food Bank. Overwhelmingly, people believe that they’ll never have to use a Food Bank. No child in our country grows up believing that he’ll have to use a Food Bank. I’m sure that the many mothers and fathers, who come in to get food to feed their children, were not planning on having to use a Food Bank.
We tend to think about people who use the Food Bank as ‘needy’, but I think that there are many other ways that we should describe them – specifically Courageous. It takes courage to fly in the face of social norms and admit that you need help; it takes courage to walk in the door of the Food Bank. Sometimes, it takes courage to feed your family.
With the commercial hype surrounding Mothers’ Day, I think we are at a loss of how to truly show our mothers our appreciation. The media will tell us that unless we can spend lots of money on our mothers that we are not celebrating them. I think this year, for me, that Mothers’ Day is going to be much more than that; it will be celebrating the struggles that all mothers in our world must face to keep their children safe, healthy and happy. For some, those struggles will include things like walking a mile or more for water; for others, that may include placing themselves in harm’s way; for still others, that may include having to use a Food Bank. Yes, we should celebrate the courage of the women in our world who do what they do to protect their children.
That mother, who came into the Food Bank, needs to be celebrated for showing the courage to feed her children, and not be stigmatized by the community in which she lives. Each of the 3300 families that we see each month needs to know that they are being courageous by coming to get food to feed their children.
Mary Ann McDowell
Operations Coordinator



